I have been a single goddess for about 7 years now (wow lol), and every year between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day is pretty much the only time where I wouldn’t mind entertaining the thought of dating… or how nice it would be to have a male companion (or at least someone to start up my car in the winters and wear matching PJs during the holiday season haha)!
Well, I’ve learned that self-love during my single season is truly a gift and this is a time I want to cherish. Therefore, I’m going to share 5 ways you can love yourself more while being a single goddess!
#1 Take Yourself on Solo Dates
One thing I’ve learned is that I truly am my own best friend. I no longer wait for someone to take me somewhere (on a date). I wrote about solo dating in my article, “5 Ways to Frugally Romanticize Your Life”, but this is truly the most obvious way to love yourself more while single!
Treat it like a real date with someone and dress up, plan out what you want to do, eat a great meal at a fabulous restaurant, book yourself a night at an amazing hotel downtown, buy yourself some flowers, and take yourself to that play or movie! Shoot, book your own solo “baecation”! The best thing about taking yourself on a date is that every decision is up to you!
You know how couples are always indecisive on what to do or eat on a date? Well, you don’t have that problem…YOU get to decide where to go and where you eat!
For my 30th birthday, I treated myself to a solo trip to LA for a makeup convention. I wanted to stay in downtown LA, so I did! I wanted to rent a Ford Mustang convertible, so I did (I look good in a drop-top lol)! I wanted to dine off the beach in Malibu, and I did! All because I didn’t have to answer to anyone but myself!
This year and onward, I want to make sure I budget for more solo dates, as I want my future partner to know that I love and value myself and that I expect for him to do the same 🙂
#2 Invest in Yourself
This may be another obvious way to love yourself more, but it may be one that a lot of single folks forget about the most. When I say invest in yourself, this can mean a plethora of things.
Investing in your health (joining a gym, learning to cook healthier meals, etc), taking up a new hobby, going back to school or other classes, making more money with a side hustle, investing in a money coach like Raya (hey girl, hey), going to therapy or life coaching, or committing to a new cross-country move to a new state or country!
Not only is investing in yourself a huge self-love moment but committing to the betterment of yourself will also distract you from those “woe is me, I’m still single” thoughts because you’ll be so busy with your life! I don’t know about you, but I love it when someone I’m interested in has a life filled with interests and hobbies…it means more things to explore together!
#3 Spend Time with People Who Make You Happy
I am a girls’ girl, meaning my friends are my sisters, and I’m so blessed to have them in my life. As a single goddess, I am grateful that in this season I can cultivate these relationships while I have the time and energy. Even though a lot of my friends are getting married, having kids, and moving out of state, they know that I am only a text/phone call away!
This is also a great time to make new like-minded friends as well! I know I have met new people at the gym, at my local church, and even work environments…huge win if they are also single and childfree as well! Remember, a lot of couples spend less time with their individual friends, so cherish this time.
#4 Start an “I’m Grateful to be Single Because…” List
Ok, this tip is something I came up with all on my own haha, but I was inspired by Mandy Hale (the Queen of Single Goddessness). In fact, this is something I want to keep up with as I think a lot of single women forget the many blessings that are associated with being single! For instance, here are some things on my “I’m Grateful to be Single Because…” list:
- I have freedom! I can come and go as I please
- I can often get reservations, concert/event tickets, and other services with no issues
- I don’t have to worry about “checking in” or someone watch my spending habits or how much I order from Amazon haha
- I am able to live alone, and LOVE it!
- I can watch cheesy Korean dramas all weekend without judgment
- I am able to discover my interests, passions, and invest in myself
I encourage all my single goddesses to do the same and challenge yourself to see the joys in being single!
#5 Do WHATEVER You Want
My favorite way to love yourself more during your single season…is to just do whatever your heart desires, because you can! If you want to date, do it. If you don’t want to date, don’t do it. Since I have a lot of friends who are in relationships and/or have kids, I find myself with a lot of free weekends…to just do whatever I want!
My free weekends consist of a lot of self care, doing tasks for my side gig (City Girl Savings, of course), cleaning my apartment, reading, hanging with my friends, lots of Netflix…and sometimes, I do absolutely nothing! I used to feel guilty for doing nothing, but again I’m single, and I get to do whatever I want because I’m my 1st true love *cue Disney music* haha.
Related: 4 Reasons Why You Need Solo Time
I hope these 5 ways to love yourself more while single were helpful! I truly think society puts way too much pressure on single people. Like I said previously, cherish this special season and remember that even those in relationships can have moments where they wished they were single again. Also, as RuPaul says, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the h*ll are you going to love somebody else?”
Were these tips helpful for you? If you’re single, what other ways can you love yourself more this season? If you are in a relationship, what are some things you miss about being single? Remember to like and follow City Girl Savings on all social media platforms and subscribe to the City Girl Savings podcast as well!